Growing Old Graciously

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If you are in the latter half of your life and you chronically belittle yourself or quietly claim to be of little value to the human race, it is time to stop such utterances.

You must abandon any tendency to think of yourself as of little value in this world.

They are not true. You may feel that way at times, but your feelings lie. Here are some important things to remember.

You have something every living human being needs. As you grow older and other pressures and responsibilities change or drop away, a new opportunity is open for you. It is that of being an encourager—a support to the younger generation and to your peers as well. What a great new title to own: “I am an encourager.” Inscribe that on your heart. It is the number-one step for gracious living at any age.

Inside you are many unspoken words of appreciation, admiration, and encouragement. Inside you are compliments that have never been expressed, kind words aching to be given away. You have smiles to spread everywhere you go. And you need never run out.

There is no human being who cannot use what you are carrying around. That is why you must abandon any tendency to think of yourself as of little value in this world. Everyone you meet needs what you have!

Some time ago I was visiting a retirement home, and a woman came up to me and identified herself. After we chatted a bit, I said to her, “You are beautiful!” She glowed like she had been plugged into an electric socket. Anyone can offer such a gift.

Retirement years free us for a more deliberate and intentional career in brightening our environment.

Bert is 84 years old and intent on following Jesus’ instruction to let his light shine. He understands how he can brighten other’s lives. Here is just one example.

While shopping at a gigantic arts-and-crafts show, Bert made a point of stopping at as many of the 200 booths as he could. At each booth he thanked the owner, who was usually the artist who had created the objects for sale. He said, “Thank you for making the world a more beautiful and interesting place by crafting your art so nicely.” The artists were usually caught off guard but then beamed with appreciation for the kind words.

Bert had changed his spectacles. Instead of seeing merchants wanting to take his money, he saw creators of beauty making their inspired pieces available. He realized they deserved appreciation and needed encouragement. He found that his praise and support were like cups of cool water to thirsting souls.

Growing old graciously means recognizing in everyone around you a need for appreciation, admiration, and encouragement. In doing so we share in God’s image. God distributes lovingkindness indiscriminately, without regard for who deserves it.

The younger generation, especially, needs the affirmation of their elders. Grandchildren, nieces and nephews, neighbor kids, other people’s children—they all need to hear compliments and kind words from older folks. Send a note or email or text. Better yet, say it in person.

Gracious living is giving support and spirit-lifting words at the car wash, the grocery store, the bank, and every place else. Graciousness is forgetting yourself and giving to others. And you have plenty to give until your final breath.

About the Author

Jim Kok is director of care ministry at the Crystal Cathedral, Garden Grove, Calif. He is also a clinical pastoral education supervisor and author of several books, including 90% of Helping Is Just Showing Up.

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I totally agree. Great article. Is it possible that "Jim Kok" is the same person who did the chapel ministry at The Living Center in Denver, CO? He ministered to my parents and many of my relatives, and lived these words. What a blessing.
Thanks, Bev

Amen and Amen! There is nothing so awesome as a servant of God, in whom the Holy Spirit has been working for 60+ years, graciously and joyfully serving God's people! I say this as a 33-year-old pastor who has the honor of proclaiming His Word to some of His most elite saints.

What if "fatherly" and "motherly" affirmation from an older generation is all that it takes sometimes to bring in some of those young adults that our congregations so earnestly seek?

"Growing old is not for sissies" A large picture in the exercise room shows
the retirement-age body of a well muscled man.Intention is to show that
growing old is for BODY-BUILDERS.
An intriguing application is the one I favor:
Growing Old Is For Body-Builders, as referring to the BODY OF CHRIST .
SENIORS are best suited as Holy-Spirit-Equipped Body Builders.
HAVE-AT-IT,
Rits Tadema.

Thanks for the reminder Jim. I'm a new painter and tend to say that "I'm not very good," but I love it. I can't wait to start painting. I'm learning that my art will never be perfect any more than I will be, but I've painted 10 canvasses for 10 of my grandchildren for Christmas and am loving it. I will not put myself down again! Life is too short! Blessings.

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