Comfort, Calling, and Crosses

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In high school, I took a class called “Christians in Society.” We looked at many of the hot-button social issues that dominate conversations in both secular media and Christian communities today—abortion, euthanasia, religious freedom, gender and sexual identity, and more. One day, in the midst of a particularly intense discussion, one of my classmates raised a hand and said, “I think that all of the issues that we are talking about in this course could be dealt with better if we as Christians recognized that the church needs to evolve alongside society. We need to stop being stuck in the past and judging people. Instead we need to be accepting of their decisions so that everyone in our world can live happy lives, full of love. Isn’t that what we are called to do as Christians?”

This comment raised a number of red flags for me. While I was in full agreement with the fact that Christians need to love all people regardless of the decisions they make because we as sinners have no right to judge others, the comment about the church needing to evolve alongside society and the implication that love means ensuring that all people can live happy lives by their own definitions concerned me.

It is so easy to confuse love and compassion with providing blanket permission for people to be free to do whatever will make them happy. Not only does adopting these views from secular culture enable us to get along better with people who do not share our faith, but they also suggest permission for us to make decisions that ensure our own happiness.

However, the Bible does not promise that God’s love for us will always mean happiness as our culture defines it. Matthew 16:24-26 provides us with a distinctly different message with regard to the call for our lives: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?”

If we are to take seriously this call for our lives in Matthew 16, we must ask ourselves this question: In a world where comfort is key, where gaining the world is treated as the purpose for our very existence, what do we do with God’s call on us to deny ourselves, take up our crosses, and follow Christ? Phrased another way, what do we do when our culture provides us with a counter-narrative to the one in Scripture, one that, on the surface, appears far more alluring, satisfying, and fulfilling than the one that Scripture offers?

Matthew 16 takes our culture’s view of comfort and calling and flips it on its head. As Christians, we are not called to comfort but to crosses. The crosses we are called to carry in the name of God’s kingdom work are inconvenient, even painful, and decidedly counter-cultural. Articulated simply, they are uncomfortable, and we don’t like them. We want, as Matthew 16 says, to “gain the world” because we are told by our culture and by the sinful whispers of our hearts that this is the purpose for our earthly lives. The devil’s voice inside all of us echoes his words from the mouth of the serpent in the Garden of Eden, casting doubt on God’s good intentions for people. After all, he whispers, who would desire to be faithful to a God who tells you that you must lose your life in order to find it? In that whispered question, those of us living in the world—a world oriented toward comfort in the form of material wealth, individual fulfillment, and relative truth—are subject to great temptation, stimulating our desire for gain of the world while the devil in turn gains our souls.

Shouldering our crosses means combating these temptations. It means giving up contentment and comfort to serve God. It means losing our lives in order to find them in him. It means that the church, rather than evolving alongside society, must find that challenging balance between living in the world but not being of it. If we are to respond faithfully to the call in Matthew 16, we must recognize that the true purpose for our lives is in our creation as imagebearers of God, the only being who has the right to gain the world. That is, in fact, the purpose of God’s kingdom work of which we are called to be a part: restoring the created world that has been broken by humankind’s sin. This is where kingdom and cross intersect, for there is no perfect kingdom without a cross. Jesus had to die on a cross to accomplish God’s plan of redemption.

While we are not all called to go as far as death on our crosses, we are called to mirror the sacrificial love that brought Christ there.

The comforts of this world are not always wrong or to be avoided—indeed, many are blessings from God. They become wrong when our desire for them displaces our desire for God and service to God’s kingdom. If Jesus had been more concerned with his comfort than his cross, we would be without the hope of eternal life that sustains us in the midst of our suffering. Similarly, if we are more concerned with our comfort than our crosses, God’s kingdom on earth is without hope. Therefore, we must be willing to deny ourselves the earthly comforts to which we cling, those that bring only temporary happiness. In so doing, we will find that our ultimate comfort and true joy is in faithfulness to our calling, taking up our cross and following in the footsteps of our Lord and Savior as we respond to his gift of life by continuing God’s kingdom work here on earth.

About the Author

Kyra Schat is a first-year student at Redeemer University College, pursuing an honors major in social work with a minor in clinical and developmental psychology. She is a member of First Hamilton CRC. 

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Very well said, Kyra.  Thank you for this submission. 

Thanks, Kyra, for your take on how Christ and culture fit together.  You present a Christian world and life view that many would agree with, but certainly, not all.  The question is how do we incorporate culture into our Christian perspective of life and living.  H. Richard Neibuhr (a Reformed theologian), has written a book, “Christ and Culture” that reveals five different ways that Christians (and Christian groups) relate to culture.  At the one extreme is the “Christ against culture” which is the position you seem to take, a position of Christian opposition to culture.
At the other extreme is the “Christ of culture” which demonstrates a lack of tension between Christ and culture.  This is especially true as Scripture shows a Christ who fulfills society’s hopes and aspirations.   It may not be as cut and dried as you have expressed as to how Christ and culture fit together.
So perhaps your fellow student was expressing this lack of tension that you see between Christian values and culture.  In fact culture can enhance our view of a meaningful Christian life within a changing culture.  But we have to be willing to see the good that much of culture accomplishes, and be willing to incorporate the good into our world and life view.

Whereas I agree that as Christians, we are called to pick up our crosses and follow Christ, we cannot expect people who don't know Him to do the same. This expectation is for Christians, so before we lay that kind of burden on unbelievers we need to share the Gospel with them and pray that they come to believe in the Lord as their Savior, and not all of them will.  We have not been called to impose God's way on the world when even God Himself abstains from such an approach.  He leaves all people free to choose whether they will follow Him or not, and we have to respect that freedom even if we believe the choices people make are bad for them.  You can be sure that God thinks so too, but He doesn't strike people with bolts of lightning every time they go in the wrong direction.  No, rather He waits for them like the father of the Prodigal Son hoping they will see the light and decide to come home.  Sometimes they only start on the way home before they die, but He sees them from afar and takes that into consideration.  My late dad passed away before he became a Christian. He'd been brought up in the Roman Catholic Church, but he rejected the faith and lived as an unbeliever for most of his life.  However, in the last months of his life he told my mom he wished he had faith like hers.  Before the operation he was due to undergo, and that would kill him, I had prayed that he would survive it and go to heaven when he died, and although God said no to the first request He gave me peace about the second one because with the Lord it's NOT all or nothing.  He may well see fit to grant part of the prayer even if not the whole.